Comments on: What Not to Say to a Single Woman http://ignoranthistorian.com/2008/11/what-not-to-say-to-a-single-woman/ "by a partial, prejudiced, and ignorant historian," - Jane Austen Mon, 15 Mar 2010 01:31:10 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Teresha http://ignoranthistorian.com/2008/11/what-not-to-say-to-a-single-woman/comment-page-1/#comment-10112 Teresha Mon, 01 Jun 2009 17:56:26 +0000 http://ignoranthistorian.com/2008/11/what-not-to-say-to-a-single-woman/#comment-10112 LOL! So true. I'm going to borrow this idea and write a post about what not to say to a pregnant woman! Thanks for stopping by my blog and posting! LOL! So true. I’m going to borrow this idea and write a post about what not to say to a pregnant woman! Thanks for stopping by my blog and posting!

]]> By: mrsmouthy http://ignoranthistorian.com/2008/11/what-not-to-say-to-a-single-woman/comment-page-1/#comment-6085 mrsmouthy Tue, 18 Nov 2008 06:02:00 +0000 http://ignoranthistorian.com/2008/11/what-not-to-say-to-a-single-woman/#comment-6085 Thanks for telling it like it is, Ronnica. I read someone's blog the other day who said that she could live without a husband but could not live without her best girl friend. We form the relationships we need when we need them, and they come in so many different forms! Thanks for telling it like it is, Ronnica. I read someone’s blog the other day who said that she could live without a husband but could not live without her best girl friend. We form the relationships we need when we need them, and they come in so many different forms!

]]> By: Jen http://ignoranthistorian.com/2008/11/what-not-to-say-to-a-single-woman/comment-page-1/#comment-6061 Jen Sat, 15 Nov 2008 18:29:00 +0000 http://ignoranthistorian.com/2008/11/what-not-to-say-to-a-single-woman/#comment-6061 There's a great post on this over at Rocks in My Dryer!<br/>http://rocksinmydryer.typepad.com/shannon/2008/11/welcome-to-anot.html There’s a great post on this over at Rocks in My Dryer!
http://rocksinmydryer.typepad.com/shannon/2008/11/welcome-to-anot.html

]]> By: Kayte http://ignoranthistorian.com/2008/11/what-not-to-say-to-a-single-woman/comment-page-1/#comment-6043 Kayte Fri, 14 Nov 2008 13:30:00 +0000 http://ignoranthistorian.com/2008/11/what-not-to-say-to-a-single-woman/#comment-6043 Ronnica, your boldness in putting this out there is awesome. I remember in college wanting nothing more than having the potential man in my life that I would marry and not even going on a date. I would cry and cry. At that time books like Passion and Purity and Lady in Waiting were popular among my group of girlfriends. The one thing that many of us took away from that was that "if you just come to the place where you are content, then God will send you the person you're going to marry." So, I would fall into the trap of saying, "I'm content being single...I'm content being single...I'M CONTENT BEING SINGLE...now, God where is he?" Totally harmful. <br/>There are no guarantees in life and no magic formulas. Ronnica, your boldness in putting this out there is awesome. I remember in college wanting nothing more than having the potential man in my life that I would marry and not even going on a date. I would cry and cry. At that time books like Passion and Purity and Lady in Waiting were popular among my group of girlfriends. The one thing that many of us took away from that was that “if you just come to the place where you are content, then God will send you the person you’re going to marry.” So, I would fall into the trap of saying, “I’m content being single…I’m content being single…I’M CONTENT BEING SINGLE…now, God where is he?” Totally harmful.
There are no guarantees in life and no magic formulas.

]]> By: Iva http://ignoranthistorian.com/2008/11/what-not-to-say-to-a-single-woman/comment-page-1/#comment-6042 Iva Fri, 14 Nov 2008 12:07:00 +0000 http://ignoranthistorian.com/2008/11/what-not-to-say-to-a-single-woman/#comment-6042 Me thinks that sometimes it's best just not to say something at all and listen. I know that's what I do with my single (or infertile) friends.<br/><br/>(((hugs))) Me thinks that sometimes it’s best just not to say something at all and listen. I know that’s what I do with my single (or infertile) friends.

(((hugs)))

]]> By: Rachel Ann http://ignoranthistorian.com/2008/11/what-not-to-say-to-a-single-woman/comment-page-1/#comment-6038 Rachel Ann Fri, 14 Nov 2008 04:39:00 +0000 http://ignoranthistorian.com/2008/11/what-not-to-say-to-a-single-woman/#comment-6038 I'm so with you! I get the same comments...especially now that I am 34! My family thinks they are being an encouragement but really they aren't!<br/><br/>I've even had family members ask me if I considered having invitro so that I can have a baby while I'm still able to! Sheesh!<br/><br/>I really don't mind being single as I've gotten to do some great things; however, weddings and holiday parties suck! Going by yourself just isn't the same without a date. I’m so with you! I get the same comments…especially now that I am 34! My family thinks they are being an encouragement but really they aren’t!

I’ve even had family members ask me if I considered having invitro so that I can have a baby while I’m still able to! Sheesh!

I really don’t mind being single as I’ve gotten to do some great things; however, weddings and holiday parties suck! Going by yourself just isn’t the same without a date.

]]> By: Mrs. Mordecai http://ignoranthistorian.com/2008/11/what-not-to-say-to-a-single-woman/comment-page-1/#comment-6037 Mrs. Mordecai Fri, 14 Nov 2008 03:02:00 +0000 http://ignoranthistorian.com/2008/11/what-not-to-say-to-a-single-woman/#comment-6037 So true! I think I say things like that to my friends with challenges, too. I guess instead of trying to give advice, I should just love them. So true! I think I say things like that to my friends with challenges, too. I guess instead of trying to give advice, I should just love them.

]]> By: TRS http://ignoranthistorian.com/2008/11/what-not-to-say-to-a-single-woman/comment-page-1/#comment-6036 TRS Fri, 14 Nov 2008 01:45:00 +0000 http://ignoranthistorian.com/2008/11/what-not-to-say-to-a-single-woman/#comment-6036 Right there with you sister!! <br/><br/>Yes, I guess they mean well - and I probably say things to my friends in the challenges that they face that aren't helpful. <br/><br/>The whole, you'll find him when you quit looking is the one that bugs the crap outta me. <br/>Yeah? If your husband was missing - would you stop looking? Right there with you sister!!

Yes, I guess they mean well – and I probably say things to my friends in the challenges that they face that aren’t helpful.

The whole, you’ll find him when you quit looking is the one that bugs the crap outta me.
Yeah? If your husband was missing – would you stop looking?

]]> By: Vicki http://ignoranthistorian.com/2008/11/what-not-to-say-to-a-single-woman/comment-page-1/#comment-6035 Vicki Fri, 14 Nov 2008 01:42:00 +0000 http://ignoranthistorian.com/2008/11/what-not-to-say-to-a-single-woman/#comment-6035 I'm not being supportive of what people have said to you, but it seems to me to be "comfort" responses that are blurted out. When we're called on to comment on something that doesn't fit what we consider to be the "norm" most of us aren't wise enough to know exactly what that person needs to hear. That's why inane comments come out that are meant to comfort the listener but only comfort the speaker a little.<br/><br/>I do agree with what your friend said. Enjoy the ability to be your own boss. Cook when and what you want to. Stay up as late as you want to. Not share a bathroom with anyone... I’m not being supportive of what people have said to you, but it seems to me to be “comfort” responses that are blurted out. When we’re called on to comment on something that doesn’t fit what we consider to be the “norm” most of us aren’t wise enough to know exactly what that person needs to hear. That’s why inane comments come out that are meant to comfort the listener but only comfort the speaker a little.

I do agree with what your friend said. Enjoy the ability to be your own boss. Cook when and what you want to. Stay up as late as you want to. Not share a bathroom with anyone…

]]> By: telecommutingtruths http://ignoranthistorian.com/2008/11/what-not-to-say-to-a-single-woman/comment-page-1/#comment-6034 telecommutingtruths Fri, 14 Nov 2008 01:10:00 +0000 http://ignoranthistorian.com/2008/11/what-not-to-say-to-a-single-woman/#comment-6034 I have 6 kids and Im Cathoic so I hear LOTS of the same comments over and over again. Know the feeling! I have 6 kids and Im Cathoic so I hear LOTS of the same comments over and over again. Know the feeling!

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