Something clicked for me in the last week or so, that has never made sense to me before. I’m not sure how I didn’t get it, it’s not something difficult to understand. Certainly I’ve seen/heard the lesson in a dozen places, but it never registered. The lesson?
My life isn’t about my marital status.
Really, that should be obvious, right? Over and over the Bible says, “Trust in the Lord,” “fear the Lord,” “seek the Lord,” and “keep His commandments.” None of these require me to be married.
So all this time I’ve been longing for a boyfriend, my desires have been misplaced. It’s not that marriage isn’t a good desire, it’s just that it’s not where my focus should be. Instead of spending so much time thinking about the ring that’s not on my finger and the man who I can’t call mine, I should be pursuing God and His righteousness. Instead of trying to make myself dateable, I should be seeking to be a holy woman of God.
Of all the characteristics that God clearly wants His followers to be marked by, “married” just isn’t on that list. It’s not that He doesn’t care about marriage; it’s just that He desires my holiness more. I should seek wisdom, instead of just how to become a wife.
Though I know most of my readers are married, I wanted to share this with you anyway. Just as it has occured to me that life isn’t about my marital status, life is not about the money we make, the job/title we have, what others think of us, or how well we keep our houses clean and in running order.