Comments on: It Just Ain’t about That

By: Daisy

Daisy — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 12:11:32 +0000

Found this post on “Best Posts of the Week” – I relate to this! A couple years ago I realized I had placed too much emphasis on men and dating. I realized it was time to put emphasis on ME and just trying to be the best person I could/can be. I’m not fussed by the single thing any longer. :) I’m happy being me and if I find someone who enhances my life – great – if not – no worries! I’ll continue working on myself and being the best ME I can. :)

By: jennifer

jennifer — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 06:47:07 +0000

It is a privelege to be a part of your ah ha moment. Seeing God work through your life could reveal something to someone else. I am waiting for the lesson of “My life is not my weight” to sink in.

I am hopefully going to post those questions Saturday.

By: TRS

TRS — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 04:02:56 +0000

Right on.
I have found myself in that same position before. In fact, I had others point it out to me. You know I started my new job just after I broke up with Mr. Burns. I was (and still am) so upset that relationship didn’t lead to marriage – I had put so much of my hope in that. So as some of my co-workers were getting to know me, they saw that I really wanted to be married. One of them tried to point out (she’s divorced) that it’s not all it’s cracked up to be. But let’s be honest here – it’s something we are sort of raised to expect as a given. Our parents expect us to get married. We expect ourselves to get married. What other thing in anyone’s life do they just EXPECT to happen as a rite of growing up? Of course it’s disapointing when you find yourself grown up and still alone.

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 03:06:24 +0000

I think this is a difficult topic. So often married women (and unmarried alike) make their lives about their marital status instead of about God. I think it’s completely ok to desire what you do and to even work to make yourself beautiful on the outside. I’m so glad you remember, though, that the inside of the cup is what REALLY counts. It’s great to be beautiful outwardly but eventually people will see through that to your inward self. I think you are a beautiful Christian woman and am so glad that you are learning to be secure in Christ alone…and not in whether you are married (or even dating) or not : )

By: Stesha

Stesha — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 23:51:16 +0000

Great point! Our household is doing the same.

Hugs and Mocha,
Stesha

By: RhondaLue

RhondaLue — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 03:33:53 +0000

And I’d like to add that being a Holy Woman is different for all women but the same as well. The same as in if we have our proper focus (serving the Lord) then we are holy in different ways. I might find Holiness by serving my children and family and neighbors in every day ways. Someone else might find it out in the work-force being a good example and sharing the Word. Others still, by being a full-time missionary. I’m so grateful for ALL the Holy women I know, the good examples they are to me. Super Post Ronnica!

By: Christy

Christy — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 01:53:46 +0000

not married….and it helps.

By: Playful Professional

Playful Professional — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 01:27:32 +0000

I kind of disagree. I think that you should be working on making yourself dateable…by becoming a woman of God. I found that when I started trying to focus on my spirital life, people found me more “dateable” as you put it then ever before. I actually met my husband at my highest point spiritually, and I definitely attribute it to that.

By: Pat

Pat — Tue, 24 Feb 2009 23:30:22 +0000

Girl, I am married.. and even when you are married life is not about your marital status.. I admit (to you here..) that I have been secretly envying women who are not married lately, because it seems that society categorized married women (specialy mothers).. as in here is a broom and some laundry detergent and have fun!

By: Vicki

Vicki — Tue, 24 Feb 2009 22:51:43 +0000

And to appropriate that for my life: My life is not about where we’ll be moving next. Ahem, I have some reprioritization to do…