It’s Not about Sex
Posted in Current Events and tagged with Culture, Movie, Relationships, Sex on July 30, 2009
I’m not sure if you’ve noticed (okay, I’m sure you have), but our society is obsessed with sex. Sex sells. ”Adult” content primarily means sex, as if that’s what it means to be an adult. Even children’s movies can’t seem to stay away from a little sexual innuendo or suggestive content. Showing two people having sex or implying it is often the easy way out for movie directors, as it allows them to show a connection between the characters without having to work out another way to get that point across.
Of course, one of the main problems with this presentation of sexuality is that by-and-large, what is presented and promoted is sinful: sex outside of marriage, lusting, etc. Not that that isn’t bad enough in and of itself, but there’s a greater issue.
The problem with this message isn’t just that it is fuels lust, but that it gives a false picture of what matters. Believe it or not, life’s not about sex. I’m sure sex is great and all (don’t confuse being a virgin with being asexual), but it’s not the end-all be-all even in it’s proper context, marriage. No wonder there are more and more people that are addicted to pornography. They’ve been sold the idea that the good life=sex and they’ve bought it.
My message quite simply is, life is not about sex.
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July 30th, 2009 at 12:33 am
I agree. Life is really about eating copious amounts of chocolate..
July 30th, 2009 at 1:43 am
AMEN. Life IS about eating copious amounts of chocolate :)
July 30th, 2009 at 8:12 am
I agree with the two above! :-)
Seriously, though. I know this is a touchy subject, but I am willing to open up. I can attest to the fact that sex is definitely NOT what is seen on TV and it can and often is very disappointing to women (and men) when they have a preconceived idea of what it should be like/look like. I only know of one couple (this is not to say that there IS only one, jut that I dont’ know any others) that had a fairly pure idea of sex when they got married AND were virgins. Their relationship is so sweet in the Lord and seems to be as close to what God created it to be as is possible. I am appalled that our media actually promotes adultery, sex outside of marriage, and homosexual sex and then our society actually often condemns people for practicing it. I do have a fear for my children (girls) and strive not to overprotect them or keep them in the dark, but to educate them on what sex really is and what it is designed for BEFORE they happen to catch something on TV because eventually, they’ll see something. I mean there’s even a graphic lubricant commercial! When I was a kid we didn’t have to worry about such things…or at least our parents didn’t. Ok, I’m done….sorry to get on my soapbox!
July 30th, 2009 at 9:06 am
Life is not about sex – it’s about connection with people. Without getting too graphic, sex without a connection is ‘just’ sex. But when you have that connection (with a life-long partner aka spouse), I believe it’s all that God designed it to be (and let’s not forget that sex is a God-given design – in it’s proper context).
However, the sex we see on TV and movies RARELY involve the connection-type sex that sex truly is.
I have the unique opportunity as a mother to discuss God-intended sex with BOTH my son and my daughter – and the message will be the same. Too often, the subject of sex is more lenient with boys than it is with girl – but both boys and girls are equally saturated with sex (have y’all seen the short-shorts with the messages on the butt? Ugh!)
July 30th, 2009 at 9:32 am
Totally agree… I hate the way society makes it such a priority & what seems to matter… its probably one of the LEAST things that matters in this world… but Redbook & other magazines with all the “Sex quizes” would have you believe otherwise… very sad…
July 30th, 2009 at 9:41 am
Amen sister!
July 30th, 2009 at 10:32 am
Fantastic post. I completely agree. <3
July 30th, 2009 at 12:04 pm
People most definitely have that misconception. Experts will say sex needs to be an important part of a healthy relationship, but it’s not the only part or even the most important. It’s just a piece of the pie.
You said it well hun.
July 30th, 2009 at 12:36 pm
You know the worst part, people are begining to belive it. And forgetting that sex is more than just sex. It still amazes me how young kids are when they start having sex. It’s sad.
July 30th, 2009 at 12:54 pm
I agree! My husband and I both waited to have sex until we were married to each other. And while it’s a wonderful part of our marriage, it doesn’t define it.
July 30th, 2009 at 1:16 pm
agh i agree 100%….well said! I think the most important thing is learning how to LISTEN to one another.
July 30th, 2009 at 1:41 pm
Sex is not like they portray on tv at all I think, and no it is not at all what my life revolves around.
As you get older I think you find out that having a lifelong mate and having that deep connection and love is so much more important. We get through daily REAl life here. The good the bad and the ugly. We fall into bed exahuasted and the best part is wrapping my legs around his and feeling him near.
Yes~ of course that sexual connection is great too~ but it is not what it is all about.
July 30th, 2009 at 2:22 pm
I agree with you. It isn’t about sex. Sex between loving partners who care about each other can be a wonderful thing, but so can holding a hand and helping each out through tough times. It’s the connection that makes the relationship special.
I think we often confuse intimacy and sex – not necessary the same thing.
July 30th, 2009 at 4:44 pm
Oh it is wonderful to know that I am not alone on the matter. It just breaks my heart to see how sex is shown nowdays. Thank you all for sharing the way you feel. I have been called an old fuddy duddy. I will not change my position on this.
July 30th, 2009 at 5:27 pm
While I’m not a prude, I do agree that our society is way too sex-obsessed. I raised 2 girls (well, they’re almost grown), and have spent the last 20 years ago fighting the public perception that sex sells.
July 30th, 2009 at 8:23 pm
Great discussion… I relate with the chocolate comments above and I agree that Sex is definitely out of control in society. It’s a wonderful thing that God created to be enjoyed within the bounds of marriage.
Oh yeah and thanks for the comment love earlier on my blog:)
July 30th, 2009 at 8:43 pm
Very well said! :)
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July 31st, 2009 at 3:33 pm
Beautifully said!! Sex IS a wonderful part of a life but it’s very shallow if people think that’s ALL there is to life. And it makes it a nearly useless and unvalued commodity. It is a beautiful gift and you outline that perfectly. Hey, thanks for stopping by my place and for your sweet thoughts. :)
August 2nd, 2009 at 4:05 am
It would be nice if ads got back to just convincing you of the good points of the product. Period. Great post.
August 3rd, 2009 at 5:50 pm
Sexuality has increased so much that our brains do not know how to handle the stimulus all around. We have to learn to control our brain, it sounds easy but is actually difficult especially for someone struggling with sexual addiction issues. They have trained their brains to use pornography as a way to relax the body. This is repeated over and over and the brain records this as a way to survive. Individuals struggling with sexual addiction issues must learn how addiction affects the brain so they can overcome their addiction.
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August 6th, 2009 at 1:27 am
…………This is the FIRST time I have EVER seen somebody say this on the internet. All my life I haven’t ever seen so many comments that agree with this statement/should be a fact- THANK YOU for posting this!!!! Lol.
But okay, seriously: =|
I saw this comment:
Kristina Says:
July 30th, 2009 at 12:54 pm
I agree! My husband and I both waited to have sex until we were married to each other. And while it’s a wonderful part of our marriage, it doesn’t define it.
Does that mean that there is a male out there that thinks that way as well?? Cause I’m really starting to give up, now. :(