Comments on: In Pursuit of a Friend

By: Carol

Carol — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 19:18:02 +0000

Okay, you’ve either depressed or inspired me. I’ll have to decide later.

I don’t think I’ve really made a new friend in like 5 years and my only “confidants” are my hubby and my mom. Of course, I don’t have any real female friends, which may be part of the problem.

By: jennifer

jennifer — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 16:25:11 +0000

I have been very careful since we moved. I have prayed for a good friend and I don’t want a group of friends. Since pulling up roots from the move was so emotionally painful for me, I haven’t made an effort at all. So if we leave this community, there will not be anyone who misses me.

By: Playful Professional

Playful Professional — Sun, 27 Sep 2009 02:41:05 +0000

I think sometimes the friends that mean the most to me are the ones that I never really thought I’d be friends with. Just be a friend to everyone, and you’ll find those friendships that last forever.

By: Cheryl

Cheryl — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 19:25:32 +0000

I, on the other hand, will tell a stranger my life story. ;o)

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 18:49:48 +0000

wait till you have a husband and kids! then you actually have to make timed appointments to be with your friends (ahem, in case you didn’t notice)! “I can meet you at this spot, on this day, at this time, but I have to leave by this time.” LOL. It gets pretty ridiculous sometimes! It is worth it though to make the time and invest yourself. I only have a couple of close friends…literally…friends that I do tell anything and everything to. I do tend to keep to my little circle. I have a hard time making new friends and am not usually eager to open myself up face-to-face with people.

By: Cheryl

Cheryl — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 11:33:08 +0000

It gets a little trickier the older and busier you get. But totally worth it!

By: Cara

Cara — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 02:29:54 +0000

It is definitely much harder to meet new people once you are finished with school. I’ve definitely found that as I’ve gotten older I have fewer friends, but the relationships are deeper.

By: Amanda

Amanda — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 01:28:30 +0000

Pick me! Pick me!

By: Amanda

Amanda — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 22:14:13 +0000

Last night at our mid-week service God was really talking to me about this. I have always had a lot of really CLOSE friends. But since I graduated from college I’ve been living thousands of miles away from my “support group”. I have a large group of girl-friends here at law school, but because I’m the only Christian I don’t have enough in common with them to open up on a deeper level.

I was just thinking last night how there are all these ladies at church that I wish I was close to. That even though I know people LIKE me, I’m not heart-close to them, and I want to be. But that I need to get past feeling on the “outside” and take active steps to feeling on the “inside” if I want that to happen. Anyway, just thought it was funny that the same day I’m thinking about these things this post showed up in my Google Reader! :)

Thanks for writing about this!

By: joy in the Burbs

joy in the Burbs — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 21:49:18 +0000

I think its a great idea to be open to forming new friendships and seeking them out. I’m like you. I don’t need a lot of friends, I confide in very few. But I have a general group of gals that I pal around with. Different mix from neighborhood, church or my moms prayer group.
Sometimes they develop into deeper friendships sometimes we just keep it at a social level.