Look Me in the Eyes

Last night I babysat for two young kids. Right after I took off the girl’s diaper for her to get in the bath, she prompted peed on the floor. I’ve had several boys pee at inopportune times, but this was the first time that girl has for me. Further evidence that I’ll just take my kids already potty-trained, thankyouverymuch.

I’ve already mentioned before how I’m trying to be more open. I think a key to this is showing that I’m open to communication. And by that I mean with my face and body.

I have had people tell me on more than one occasion after we became friends that they had thought that I didn’t like them when we first met. In none of these cases was it ever true. While some people have rubbed me the wrong way the first time I met them (yes, I’m talking about you, Cindy), this is the rare exception. The problem is, I’m not showing them I’m open.

The other night I was hurrying into my apartment because it was about to storm. All of the sudden, I heard a “hello” coming from the balcony of a neighbor I have never met. It scared me, and it was pretty obvious on my face. The friend that was with me assumed that he must have been a creep and that’s why I gave him that look. Further evidence that I need to work on my facial expressions!

I’ve decided that the best place to start with improving my body language and facial expressions is with eye contact. I really don’t like looking people in the eyes. I prefer to have a heart-to-heart conversation side-by-side not facing the other person. But I’m going to work on it. Not just in personal conversations, but when meeting people and seeing them from across the room, etc. I’m going to use my eyes to show that I’m available to talk rather than averting my gaze to signify I’d rather be alone. Though that might be true. But perhaps it’s not.

Conclusion: Is Blogging Worthwhile?

Point: Blogging is a worthwhile activity.
Counterpoint: Blogging is not a worthwhile activity.

Conclusion: Blogging is a worthwhile activity, within reason.

I agree with pretty much everything I said in the point. That is why I blog. Now, I need to answer the criticisms of blogging.

First of all, as a blogger I have to be careful that blogging doesn’t replace real-life social interactions. For me, I haven’t really found this to be a problem, as I don’t spend a whole lot of time with people in real-life regardless. I’m sorta a hermitess. I do have to force myself to go to gatherings and parties every once in a while (sometimes I need friends’ prompting on this), but I struggled with this before I got into blogging. Regardless, it is something the blogger has to be on the look out for. Besides, if you’re never in the real world, what are you going to blog about?

I do have to be careful that I spend time with my closer friends and interact with them about what I’m thinking. I don’t want the blog to be the only place that I’m sorting through my inner thoughts. Besides, there are things that I need to think through that aren’t blogable, and who better to do that with a friend face-to-face? This is necessary not only for my own health, but for theirs as well. I need them, but I also need to be there for them.

Sure, blogging can seem like you’re just adding to the noise, but the hits on your website are real people reading (or at least glancing at) what you’ve written. If you have something important to say, maybe the just-right person will see it. That’s what gives me hope about blogging. I blog for me, but I also blog for those that may read it.

The biggest struggle I have with blogging is becoming self-focused and prideful. This is something that I have to constantly take to the Lord, seeking forgiveness and help. As a Christian, I feel it is important to remember that it is not about me, but about Him. Even blogging I do for Him, but I can’t do that if I just use my blog to rant about what frusterates me or get driven to have more readers thus glorifying myself.

For me, blogging is a beloved hobby. Sure I have other hobbies: reading, photography (to a certain extent, I’m not really good, I just enjoy taking pictures), and swimming, but blogging is one that I really enjoy. Could I go without it? Of course. But I choose not to. When I weigh out the pros and cons, I still feel like it is worth the time it takes each day as I become a better writer, gain more insight into what others believe, and get to spread the message that I find so important. Besides, I happen to like you, my bloggy friends. It’s like the old song: “Make new friends, but keep the old…” I like making bloggy friends, but I’m going to keep my real-life friends too.

So, what about you? Why do you blog? What struggles do you have with blogging?