A couple of weeks ago, Caity blogged about ideas for personal blogs.  Being a personal blog writer, I took note of several of her ideas.  One of her ideas was to write about your dream wedding.  Perfect follow up to yesterday’s pursuit of marriage, no?

Of course, the downside is that if a perspective husband reads my blog this week, I might come off as desperate.  Yet, yesterday’s post was the outworking of my inner wrestling, and today’s is just for fun.  I don’t spend much time thinking about that day, but of course I talk about it with my girlfriends from time to time.  I’ve also been thinking about it a bit more now that Riley and Amanda are tying the knot.

Given the fact that only one half of the couple in today’s simulation is known, absolutely nothing is set in stone (except for that half of the couple…I’m still planning MY dream wedding).

So here are my thoughts on how I’d want it to go down (in no particular order):

Groom: I have a few ideas, but I’ll keep them to myself.

Dress: Something flattering?  I guess that shouldn’t be a question.  I do want something flattering.  I think my bridesmaid dress is flattering, so maybe something like that.  Which, umm, I’ve never shown you a picture of.  So something like this (Amanda…isn’t this kinda like the other dress that I tried on?).  Not so much bead work, though.

Ring: I guess this would be figured out before the rest (well, except the groom!), but I’m kinda going out of order here, anyway.  Yellow gold, with a solitary diamond, maybe round.  Nothing fancy, and preferably not overly expensive. Something that looks like this.

Bridesmaids: If I got married today (uh, late notice, huh?) I would have 5 bridesmaids.  Scratch that…I wouldn’t, because they wouldn’t be able to all make it in time for me to get married today!  Regardless, I think they know who they are.  They’re some great ladies!

Their dresses would probably be lilac, because I’m obsessed with that color right now.  I always have liked periwinkle,  so that’s a strong possibility as well.  For sure, it wouldn’t be a shade of orange or red, but anything else could be fair game, theoretically (which this all is!).

Flowers: I LOVE flowers, but I’m not a fan of them off the plant, for whatever reason.  Probably, I’d keep this simple.  My favorites are tulips, but they’re so seasonal, so unless I time things right (and really, I’m not going to worry about this one!) I’d probably do something like single gerber daisies for my bridesmaids and a cluster of 3 for me.  Ooh, I can picture that…that’d be kinda cool!

Shoes: I’d strongly consider going barefoot.  I love heels, but I also love being barefoot.  Maybe my bridesmaids as well…but definitely not any of the men.  Men’s feet are ugly!

Location: in a church.  Though a marriage is a marriage no matter where the wedding ceremony, I like the symbolism of doing it under God’s roof, so to speak.  Though this would quite possibly be an issue with my family, I’d want to get married in my church, here in North Carolina.  Though I still consider Kansas home in many ways, I want my wedding vows witnessed by those who I’m asking to help me keep them.  I’m thinking my brother getting married closer to home may have paved the way for me to do this, but we’ll cross that bridge when we get there…

Vows: Write our own.  Not trying to buck tradition for tradition’s sake, but I think that the vows I’ve heard at several friends’ weddings were scriptural and poignant, not trite.

Engagement: Short, unless providentially hindered.  Three-six months would be nice.

Reception: I always joke that I don’t want to go to mine, but will leave after the ceremony.  I can’t imagine what the backlash would be on that, though!  Seriously though, I’d go for more casual than elegant, more like a party than a ball.  No dancing.  No way.  (and no, it’s not b/c I go to a Baptist church…it’s because I can’t/won’t.  Except in the privacy of my bedroom.  Or the kitchen, when my roommate’s not home.)  Food would also be casual…snacky stuff, but lots of it.

Cost: As cheap as possible.  I know this is easier said than done, but there are few areas where I wouldn’t be willing to skimp.

Attendees: all of you! (Well, except you, creepy dude, who just stumbled onto this!)  Children would be welcome, for both the ceremony and reception, though I might have childcare available for the littlest ones during the ceremony so that my new-mom friends won’t have to excuse themselves halfway through.  I don’t plan on it being very long, though!

So, since this is all hypothetical, you don’t have to hold your tongue about the tacky decorations or the rap music I walked down to the aisle to (no, I wouldn’t).  Seriously  what do you think?  If you’re married, what’s one thing that you would have changed, if anything?